The Courage of Kindness

We’re delighted to share that the Woodland Opera House will feature theatre reviews by TJ Fassler on our website—an addition that reflects something meaningful about how we aspire to show up in our theatre community.
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When I first encountered TJ's reviews, they reminded me of reviews by beloved LA theatre reviewer Steven Stanley, who publishes StageSceneLA, and is famous for his generous reviews that are always positive.  I initially found Steven Stanley’s always-positive approach puzzling—where was the critical edge? He explains that this is by design: when he can't honestly celebrate a production, he simply won't publish a review for it. He is intentional about how he uses his voice to impact the artistic community, preferring to elevate the works he appreciates rather than tear down. Most of all, he genuinely admires theatre-makers and recognizes that the work is hard and for many it is a labor of love.

This resonates with something I noticed shortly after joining the Opera House two years ago.  At the Theatre and Dance Annex (TADA) where we hold our classes, affirmative messages line the walls and mirrors for our young students. One that particularly moved me (and remains today) is the "THINK" poster asking: "Before you speak, THINK—are your words True, Helpful, Inspiring, Necessary, Kind?" It suggests that sometimes the most courageous act is withholding words that fail these criteria.
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THINK poster in TADA

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We launched our "Asides" blog last November with the vision of hosting thoughtful perspectives about our theatre community that included reviews of productions at neighboring theatres. After all, we exist within a  web of interconnected artistic communities—each company adding unique threads to our regional tapestry. I wanted our audience to discover the remarkable work happening at neighboring theatres, recognizing that our collective success enriches everyone.

I found our reviewer closer than expected. I first met TJ when he participated in an ensemble workshop I led back in 2023, but it wasn't until he auditioned for "Amélie" in Fall 2024 that I began reading the theatre reviews he posts on Facebook. I saw immediately how he embodied those THINK principles—celebrating excellence while honoring the vulnerability inherent in creating theatre.

We navigate a cultural moment where digital communication often overtakes our deeper human instinct for connection.  Scottish author Ian McLaren reminds us: "Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle." It is a recognition that we are all vulnerable, and that each person in our orbit is the protagonist within their own complex narrative, facing private struggles beneath public personas.

One of the marvels of theatre lies in the invitation to step momentarily into another's experience—to see the world through unfamiliar eyes. This empathetic leap is our art form's greatest gift and greatest strength. Perhaps the rehearsal room's generosity of spirit might serve us well beyond the stage door, reminding us that we are all imperfect characters deserving of grace.

The principles we instill in our young performers aren't simply theatrical conventions but the foundation of meaningful community. When we pause before sending that email or posting that comment to consider whether our words pass the THINK test, we're not just being polite—we're participating in what David Brooks might call "the moral ecology" of our shared creative home.  I celebrate TJ because his approach demonstrates what Brené Brown calls "wholeheartedness”—a compassionate generosity that celebrates connection, authenticity, and courage even when it would be easier to critique. In a culture quick to find fault, there's quiet bravery in choosing to illuminate what works rather than what doesn't.

A rising tide lifts all boats—and I believe TJ's thoughtful, constructive reviews will help raise that tide. I hope you'll join me in welcoming his voice to our website and recommitting ourselves to practicing the same kindness we teach our students.

With gratitude,
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Tom Burmester
Executive Director